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好好過日子
「據說人在生下來之前，就被決定好能夠承受悲傷的數量。」
這句話正好用來作這一頁的引言。
我從《好好過日子》這一本書中 ，選出了十六句令人心境舒暢的句子，
希望它們可以在你困苦中扶你一把！
1.生命是用來行動、學習和享受。
學習得愈多，你可以做的事就愈多，做的事愈多，
你可以學習到的也更多，投入自己的生活。
Life is for doing， learning， and enjoying.
The more you learn， the more you can do.
The more you do， the more you can learn.
Partake of your own life.

2.成為生命的熱切參與者；
全心投入，奮然躍下，擁抱新經驗，大膽去嘗試。
讓你的人生成為活生生的學問。
Be and eager participator in life.
Involve yourself; plunge in; embrace new experiences; experiment.
Make your life an active science.

3.任何事都可以豐富你的人生，幫助你學習和成長。
不管是什麼的遭遇，不管有多麼不公平或顛倒是非，
你都可以在這樣的情境中有所收穫。
Use everything for your enrichment， learning， and growth.
No matter what happens to you， no matter how unfair or wrong，
there's something you can take from the situation.

4.人生提供你學習的課程。
你必須去判斷出現在人生大道上的一切事物，
何者為真、何者為假，什麼適合你、什麼不適合你。
你是真正的導師，一切的學習都要靠自己。
Life presents lessons to you.
You must decided， of all that comes your way， what is true and what is not， what applies to you and what does not. You are the real teacher， and the learning is up to you.

5.你有權力主宰皮膚之內的空間：
你的心智、你的身體、你的情感，以及你的自我意識。
掌握自我。
You have the power to take charge of the space within your own skin:
your mind， your body， your emotions， your sense of you.
Take charge of yourself.

6.接納自己你情緒。
如果你害怕自己的強烈感受，例如罪惡感、憤怒、失望以及恐懼，
那麼讓自己盡量去感受你是多麼的害怕。
然後，去體會這些情緒，之後提醒自己，你活過來了。
Accept your emotions.
If you're afraid of your strong feelings， like guilt，anger， disappointment， and fear itself，
allow yourself to feel how afraid of those feelings you are.
Then feel them anyway and， later， remind your self that you servived.

7.你不需做什麼事來證明自己的價值，你己經是一個尊貴的人。
一個人的價值與行動、思想、感情、心智、身體，情緒或其他任何事物皆無關。
你的價值是不證自明的。
There's mothing you need to do to become worthy; you already are worth.
Worthiness has nothing to do with action， thoughts， feelings， mind， body， emotiond， or anything else.
You are worthy because you are.

8.你的人生目的一直在那兒，你依循著它過日子，卻不一定充分了解。
人生目的是你內在的真理權杖，你得去發現它。
Your purpose in life has always been there.
You've lived your life by it， perhaps without fully realizing it.
It's your personal inner divining rod of truth. Discover your purpose.

9.去發現你的人生目的，將自己所有的正面特質一一列出來。
選擇兩三項最適合你的特性，以「我」或者「我是」開頭造句。
當你發現你的人生目的時，你的內心會有所感應。
To find your purpose， make a list of all your positive qualities.
Choose the two or three that suit you best and arrange them in sentences starting with "I" or "I am..."
When you discover your purpose， it will "click".

10.肯定自己的人生，宛若你己經是自己渴望的面貌。
學會自動將你的願望轉換為肯定，接著開始捕捉自己的負面思想，加以改頭換面，變成對自己的肯定。
Affirm your life as though you already are all that you want to be.
Learn to automatically turn your wishes into affirmations.
Then start catching your negative thoughts， switch them around， and make affirmations our of them.

11.不要接受其他人設定的界限，天下沒有不可行或不可變動之事。
即使這些聲明是刻在石頭上，帶著你的鐵鎚和鑿刀，擊碎它。
Don't accept the limitations of other people who chaim things are undoable or unchangeable.
If it's written in stone， bring your hammer and chisel.

12.接受自己造就的既成事實，接受偏離期望的未來，也接受無法改變的當下處境。
當你有能力改變時，再放手一搏。
Accept what you should and shouldn't have done， your future transgressions， and the present situations， that you can't change.
When you can change something， do so.

13.勇敢去做你害怕做的事。
告訴自己恐懼就在那兒─加上它所帶來的禮物：
能量和更清明的知覺─因為可以傾注全力，而且學到最多，
恐懼不是一道牆，只是一種情緒。勇敢走恐懼。
Do what you fear doing.
Tell yourself the fear is here─with its gift of energy and heightened awareness─so you can do your best and learn the most.
Fear is not a wall; it's just an emotion. Walk through the fear.

14.提高自尊很容易：做好事，而且記住你做了好事。
你真了不起！
Increasing self-esteem is easy: do good things and remember that you did them.
You're great!

15.如果你拒絕感受失去的痛苦，你體驗人生的份能力就會冰凍起來。
當你敞開自己去療傷時，「冰封」的區域就會「融化」。
好好愛自己，陪自己熬過療傷的歷程。
If you refuse to feel the pain of loss， some of your ability to experience life becomes frozen.
When you open yourself to healing， the "frozen" areas can "thaw".
Love yourself enough to go through the healing process.

16.充分去體驗人生，宛若掬起一捧水─水會完完全全地覆蓋、包圍掌心、然後讓水流掉。
雖然掌心上會留下一些水，就像你會在你接觸過的人、物上留下些許痕跡；
但手再也捧不住水，水也無法抓住手。
Experience life as fully as water experience a hand─surrounding and enfolding it. Then let go.
Though water leaves some of itself on the hand (just as you leave some of yourself with the people and things you touch)， the hand could no more hold the water than the water could hold the hand.轉自網路讀書會

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